I think one of my cats is a “rape survivor.”
Yeah, saying that makes me sick. It is one discussion where I cannot be calm, cool and collective [about the subject]. I think it is a horror, and whoever does such an act needs to be PUNISHED.
Therefore, witnessing my cats’ behaviors in the last few years and coming to this conclusion makes me feel very queer. (Makes me also want to redefine “rape.” There has been no penetration in this case.)
Let me say, first off, that the victim, Juok, is much better now. He is much calmer. He knows we care about him.
Kapoa is a goofball. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body.
However, they are cats, and they are not neutered.
(We can’t afford the price of the surgery. Housemate says if we do it, we should get them both done at the same time. I agree, but that makes it impossible. We can’t afford it. There are other mitigating factors, but that is the most crucial issue, the cost.)
Additionally, their mother died when they were at a critical age. I’m still learning how that affect their behavior[s].
They are brothers, and they are indoor cats.
A couple of years ago, I witnessed an extraordinary event. Kapoa and Juok were still “children”, but they were … growing up.
Kapoa was lying on the couch next to me. Juok walked by the sofa, going into the kitchen.
There was a sudden WHOOMP, THUMP and Kapoa had Juok in a feline “hammerlock”! It happened so QUICKLY and VIOLENTLY that I was in shock. I think Juok was surprised as well.
Kapoa had his teeth in the back of Juok’s neck (You know, the scruff of the neck. A cat or dog is paralyzed when grabbed there. The mother uses that “technique” to move her babies.)
Kapoa’s legs were straddling Juok’s back. I think Kapoa’s “crotch” was pressed against Juok’s rear.
The odd, “funny”, thing about it was that it was obvious that Kapoa had NO IDEA WHAT TO DO NEXT.
They were still for a minute or two. Then Juok, with difficulty, extracted himself from Kapoa’s embrace and walked away.
Like I said, Kapoa had NO IDEA…
Kapoa and Juok will fight from time to time. Early on, Kapoa was getting the best of Juok. It took awhile before Juok learned to fight back. Once Juok learned … he became extremely aggressive.
The thing is … when Kapoa jumps on Juok, he jumps from behind. He attacks Juok’s “ass”.
It is obvious that Kapoa is playing. However, Juok doesn’t think it is fun. HE SCREAMS whenever it happens.
One of the amazing things is to witness Kapoa’s reaction to this. He is dumbfounded. Sometimes, he is heartbroken. He wants to play. Then he sulks. He retaliates.
They do get along (Hah, REALLY, they do…). They just their moments of …. feline aerobics!
The thing is (yes, I’m deliberately repeating that phrase, “the thing is…”), Juok doesn’t like ANYONE touching him from behind. He will scream if Housemate or I touch him there.
I considered that maybe something is physically wrong with Juok. However, after careful observation of Juok, I don’t think this is the case. I’m 98 percent sure this reaction is mental.
Awhile back, Housemate was sitting on the couch with Juok. Juok was sleeping. Then Juok started to dream. Cats, when they dream, will shake, move their feet, and mutter.
Juok was getting REALLY agitated. Therefore, Housemate gently woke up. However, what happened next was … disconcerting.
Juok’s eyes were wide-opened, but he was still shaking and still “talking”. It took Housemate awhile to calm him down.
Last week, Juok was dozing on the top of the sofa. Kapoa lunged at him from the seat of the sofa. Juok screamed and GLARED at Kapoa.
Kapoa slunked away. I know he’s trying to play. I find it heartbreaking. Kapoa is a big kid. I think he has the instincts, but he has NO IDEA…
Would he “know” if his mother had survived?
The weird thing about that recent encounter was the look in Juok’s eyes. It was like his eyes almost went BOING!!!!
In that instance, I knew that Kapoa, at times, literally DRIVES JUOK CRAZY.
Made me shiver.
As I said, things are better. (Separating the cats at night, helps.) I’m writing about this, “after the fact.” It has just been something I’ve been thinking about for a while… wondering.
I would recommend living with an animal to EVERYONE. It brings out your ability to SEE. Watching them, teaches me about US, i.e., the microcosm reflects the macrocosm, etc., etc., we are all CONNECTED….